Persistence is the Key to Success

Courageous persistence is the one quality more than any other that can guarantee success. And success is something we all want, isn’t it? But to be successful takes persistence. Whether you want to lose a few pounds, get an A in a class, or any goal that you want to succeed in, you need to be persistent. It is the difference between a successful outcome and a failed one due to giving up.

AAEAAQAAAAAAAAYBAAAAJDRmZDQ3MDc1LThiMDYtNDEzMC05MjYyLTlkNWNhNDA5YjE0Ng.jpgThe definition of persistence is the quality that allows someone to continue doing something even though it is difficult or opposed by other people. This is not something you do with external goals, but it is something you do internally. And I know all to well, in the face of pain, agony and defeat, it is difficult to stay persistent.

When getting starting on your vision to success, identify your wants and desires. It is when you know the WHY, you can get a source for inspiration and keep yourself motivated. Next, figure out HOW to get what you want. This makes it easier to achieve it. Make your goals actionable daily and follow through.  All your goal-setting and planning will go to waste if you won’t be able to develop discipline and good habits. Be confident in your work that you WILL achieve what you want.

Know and accept that there will be obstacles and setbacks; then prepare for them. Nothing important was ever accomplished without adversity, setbacks and difficulties. One of the ways you can prepare for setbacks and obstacles is to anticipate potential problems and have a contingency plan.

If things do not work out the way you hoped, then review the steps you took and the process you followed. Reevaluate by examining what went wrong and where. Be very flexible and experiment to see what techniques and strategies worked best to get where you want to go.

1c5a900.jpgThink of Michael Jordan, a former American basketball player who led the Chicago Bulls to six NBA championships and won the Most Valuable Player Award five times. He was cut from his high school basketball team for not being good enough! “I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I am so successful.” Mr. Jordan tells us in plain English that the key to his success was persistence.

There will always be people who will tell you something can’t be done, your product or service won’t succeed, you aren’t good enough, and so on. Stay away from naysayers; instead seek advice from those experienced in your field of endeavor and those who want you to succeed. They can assist you by making suggestions and recommendations based on their experience and expertise. You will still have to do the hard work, but there is nothing more encouraging than having positive reinforcement.

The key attitude to achieve great achievement is to be persistent on making progress. You will face challenges and obstacles, but the payoff comes when you refuse to give up. If your goals are not achieved today, tomorrow, next week, next month, or next year – persist, because being persistent will pay off after a while. Success will come to those who have the courage to want it.

My wish for you is to have the courage to take that first step toward your dreams and be persistent in following that goal to success.

Mary Beth Iannarella

Girl Talk Marlton/The Wishwall Foundation

http://thewishwall.org/desideri/persistence-is-the-key-to-success/

Obstacles don’t have to stop you. If you run into a wall, don’t turn around and give up. Figure out how to climb it, go through it, or work around it -Michael Jordan

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We all judge each other, and it is OK

b036f98c3c60785e075834f61a10fb55.jpgYou always hear DO NOT JUDGE OTHERS, but I think it is a part of human nature. No matter how subtle, most of the time we judge unconsciously or by intuition.  I judge others all the time, and you do, too. You are judging this article right now, and that is okay.  From the moment you meet someone, you are judging their clothes, hair, makeup, and so on. You don’t even notice it, but we do it all day long.

Judgment is nothing but evaluation of evidence or facts to help us decide.  It is that little voice inside our heads that tells us to ask that sweet looking woman for directions instead of that young teenager because you judged him that he wouldn’t know.  Or when you decide to not pick the checkout line with the young chatty girl because you assume she will be too slow. We judge or evaluate life experiences, situations, things, opinions, thoughts, and people based on the values, emotions and logic we were taught. As human beings, we are blessed with touch, speech, hearing, taste, smell, common sense (most of us-lol) and intuition. These senses help us to evaluate every person or situation-in other words, judge.

Accept your urge to judge, it will help you make good decisions. Assume everyone else judges everyone else (because they do).  Ask others to share their judgements of you. Listen with an open heart and mind.  Embrace your judgements and be willing to learn from others judgements of you. Every person you meet has something special to give you—that is, if you are open to receiving it.

judgeMerriam-Webster defines “judgment” as “An opinion or decision that is based on careful thought. The act or process of forming an opinion or making a decision after careful thought. The act of judging something or someone. The ability to make good decisions about what should be done.” Many people don’t use the “careful thought” part of the definition and that is where I think good judgment and bad judgment come into play.

Judge when it is right to judge, and know how to judge. That’s imperative. There’s a thin line between judgment and ignorance, which leads to injustice. Knowing when to judge is also very important. Discretion and calculation in judgment is strength, for it shows wisdom and maturity.  Gossiping, ridiculing, or wanting to cause harm to someone by judging shows only your immaturity and ignorance.

People fear being judged because they fear being evaluated. Don’t fear it, instead originalembrace it! We must recognize that we are all imperfect and it is okay. People are going to judge you regardless of what you are or are not doing, so just do whatever makes you happy. And when you choose to step out and walk into the things you have been called to do, you can and should except judgement. Prepare for it and it will not come as a surprise. We cannot always help what happens to us, but we can help how we react to these things.

 “If we learn to open our hearts, anyone, including the people who drive us crazy, can be our teacher.” ~Pema Chodron

My wish for you is to Live Courageously!

Mary Beth Iannarella

Girl Talk Marlton/The Wishwall Foundation

 

http://thewishwall.org/desideri/we-all-judge-each-other-and-it-is-ok/

Stand up & Do Your Part to Help Others by Mary Beth Iannarella

helping-handsIt’s easy to get so wrapped up in fixing your own life that you forget about helping others and being kind. And while it’s important to put yourself first sometimes, it is also important to help others whenever you can. People are usually good-hearted by nature. They want to do good things; they want to help other people whenever they can. Some will even go beyond their means to help someone in need if they’ve been deeply touched by the circumstances of the needy one. But sometimes, we just forget, it’s okay- we are all human.

There is scientific evidence that kindness can improve our lives. Helping others and showing kindness is not only good for those in need, it also makes us happier and healthier too. Kindness and caring for others also seem to be very contagious. When we see someone do something kind or thoughtful, or we are on the receiving end of kindness, it inspires us to be kinder ourselves. Kindness really is the key to creating a happier, more trusting local community. And kindness doesn’t cost a thing!

helping-others-quote-3-picture-quote-1And it’s not all about money – we can also give of our time, ideas and energy. We all have special talents that make this world a richer place. Serve people by showing them how beautiful life can be when you live passionately exploring it with your talents. This may be in writing, painting, singing, or any area of life. Or maybe you could listen and be present to people and just show them respect. Or just try to appreciate people for who they are, not just the behaviors they display.

Whatever you’re doing to help others, no matter how small or unimportant it may seem to you, it can make a huge impact in someone else’s life. Don’t think what you’re going to get in return, that ruins the good deeds. Just do “it”, whatever it is, from your heart. People may not have noticed what you’ve done, people may not compliment you for it but the good has been done. That’s when the blessing you didn’t ask for is bestowed upon you. That’s when the good amplifies and comes back to you.

It’s a beautiful circle, when helping begins with you and you inspire people to practice kindness and pass it on to others. Helping others in my opinion is no way selfish, rather it is a “win win” situation. The person you helped is much better off now and you have raised your self-esteem, feel happier, more motivated and super confident. You can achieve almost anything you want if you believe in yourself and you put your heart and mind to it.

I believe our true purpose in life is to give our lives away to others, and that we receive happiness, fulfillment, and meaning in return. Why not stand up and do your part to spread happiness and kindness in the world? Start small, in your community or neighborhood, or the man you see every morning on the corner. There is always someone that can use your help. My wish today is that you just give it a try.

Here are just a few suggestions from me to get you started:

What can I do to help others?

  • Smile and be friendly. You never know what someone is going through.

  • Call a charity to volunteer your time and talents.

  • Donate something you don’t use to an organization that doesn’t sell!

  • Make a monetary donation to your favorite local charity.

  • Stop to help someone in need.

  • Buy someone a cup of coffee.

  • Comfort someone in grief.

 

Mary Beth Iannarella

Girl Talk Marlton/The Wishwall Foundation

 

“No one is useless in this world who lightens the burdens of another.” – Charles Dickens

 

“No one has ever become poor by giving.” – Anne Frank, diary of Anne Frank

Please help 9 yr old cancer victim Nico fulfill his bucket list

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Nico’s Army is a group of people banning together to help Nico Cassabria, a 9 year old boy, in his fight against Neuroblastoma.

For those of you that have seen my posts on Facebook regarding Nico’s Army, we have a rather unfortunate bit of news:
After some recent scans and a coinciding doctor’s appointment, Nico’s doctor advised his family that now is the time for him to try to fulfill some bucket list items while he is still feeling well enough to do so. With the exception of trying to raise money for pediatric cancers and offering our support, there’s not usually much that anyone can do to help. That is until now.

It is beyond heartbreaking to even think of a child having to put together a bucket list but I’m confident that if we, his army, band together, we’ll be able to help him check off some of his biggest dreams and goals. If anyone could lend any assistance in regard to providing Nico and his family the opportunity to complete any of the following, PLEASE reach out to me, The Unforgotten Haven, or Bianca’s Kids as soon as possible. We would be forever grateful for your help!

• Travel in a “big time” RV
• Swim with hammerhead sharks
• Go to Boston
• See Hamilton-the musical
• Go to the Nintendo Store in NYC
• Visit the Leaning Tower of Pisa
• Swim with pigs
• Disneyland
• Disney World
• Go zip-lining
• Meet Dan (The Diamond Minecart)

My wish is for all Cancer to be rid of in this world. It is horrible to watch the someone you love suffer with this illness and not be able to do anything to help them take the pain away. There is nothing to do but be there to help and support your person going through this the best you can. It is heart breaking, I know. I try not to ask why, but I do. I pray for a miracle- a cure.

Please, if you know someone who can help with the list above for Nico please contact me or anyone on the list above. We would love to help him fulfill his wishes. Nico is a sweet boy with a beautiful heart and a smile that lights up a room. Please keep him and his family in your prayers.

Thank you.

Mary Beth Iannarella

Girl Talk Marlton
GirlTalkMarlton@gmail.com